Shore dating off-season
Key facts
| Cape May tree lighting | November 21, 2026, Physick Estate |
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| Lamplighter Christmas Walking Tour | December 4, 11, 18 and 26, 5:30pm to 7:30pm |
| Cape May Lighthouse | 199 steps to the top |
| Beach Sweeps | One Saturday in April and one in October |
After Labor Day, the crowds go home and the Shore gets its towns back. That is good news if you live here. These dates work best when the beach is quiet.
Christmas in Cape May
Cape May lights its tree at the Physick Estate on November 21, 2026. The Lamplighter Christmas Walking Tour runs on December evenings, and the Holiday Inns Tour opens decorated inns and homes. Trolley rides fill up fast on weekends, so book early.
Source: Cape May MAC: Christmas in Cape May, checked 8 November 2026
A lighthouse climb on a cold day
The Cape May Lighthouse climb has six levels with landings and panels to read on the way up. The view takes in Delaware Bay, the ocean and the nature trails of Cape May Point State Park. Last climb is 15 minutes before closing.
Source: Cape May MAC: Cape May Lighthouse, checked 8 November 2026
Clean a beach together
Clean Ocean Action's Beach Sweeps run at more than 80 sites, mostly on the New Jersey shore, from 9am to 12:30pm. Register online first and bring your own gloves and a bucket. It makes a good group date or a low-pressure way to meet people.
Source: Clean Ocean Action: Beach Sweeps FAQ, checked 8 November 2026
Questions
Is Cape May worth visiting in winter?
Yes, if you like it quiet. The Christmas season brings house tours, walking tours and trolley rides.
Is the Cape May Lighthouse open all year?
Its hours change by season and it can close in bad weather. Check the Cape May MAC site before you go.
Do I need to register for Beach Sweeps?
Yes. Online registration is required, and you get your site details a few days before.
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